Am i being obsessive over my best friend?

Just wondering


She's the best friend I've ever had, and i don't think i could ever have a best friend like her ever. but at the same time, it's stressing me out.


i always feel like i have to talk to her. i'm always asking her to call me and when she does we talk for hours straight(we've talked up to 10 hours in the summer). my family said i've turned them all off just for her and put her in front of my family and stuff. i'm always texting, iming, or talking to her and always want to be doing one of those. i feel furious if i find out something about her that she didn't tell me, and i usually go through myspace bulletins to see her surveys and if she's posted any answer to something like who's your best friend...who's your #1 on your top and stuff like that. but when i talk to her, usually i'm the happiest person in the world. am i being obsessive?

Am i being obsessive over my best friend?
You already know the answer to that question. The answer is yes.





The problem with obsessing about someone to that extent is that being human, they will eventually let you down and then what will happen?





Think about why you have built this person up so much in your mind and why they have become so important to you. Are they a substitute for one of your parents? What is lacking in other parts of your life that you are putting all of your hopes and dreams on one person?





To expect one person to fulfill all of your needs is realistically unfair to both of you because life does not work that way. There will be a let down sooner or later.





When your thoughts turn to this person, think of something else as soon as you are aware of it. Do something else that interests you. Go out and make new friends so that you stop making this person the center of your life.





Get going and good luck.
Reply:You're welcome and I hope it all works out for you. Report Abuse

Reply:No. It's just that you love her to peices and you just dont want to be in a fight with her. Dont worry!
Reply:ARe u sure its not anything more than that? I mean, if she wanted, would u sleep with her too? seriously....





edit: sounds like you are in love with her...do u feel attracted to her too or something? I mean I used to have a socalled best friend too but I never got that obsessive with her....
Reply:Maybe, but not overly, because you aren't wondering where she is all the time?





Hmm, toughy, I think you should just establish that you're really good friends and maybe put your family first. They may be feeling a little sad you care about her more.





Hmmmm


You're not obsessive, you're just nice.





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Reply:family comes first over friends.. i think you should spend more time with your family than your friend.. yeah we know she's great and all but i think your friend need a little space.. probably she need time on her own.. give your friend a breather
Reply:maybe a little...but i think its just because she's ur bff and you are just afraid of losing her. I'm the same way with mine...if we arent talking, we are iming or texting and i can be upset or having a bad day and i dont feel any better until i have talked to her and its usually within the first few seconds before shes really even said ne thing.
Reply:Yes....you should give your friend some space for privacy and some love to your family.......
Reply:i think your age is a time when "best friends" really become important. considering your age, you have alot of hormone action going on. you've done the right thing by acknowledging the intensity of your emotions and asking for advise.


i hope someone has some good suggestions for you.











good luck